diabola in musica

because perfection isn't easy

I admit: I am being immature. This morning, I had a very long discussion with family after someone discovered a picture of me in this corset on Facebook. The conversation was civil, but we simply couldn’t see eye-to-eye. (I don’t think we even agreed to disagree.) We are too stubborn, and have too differing views on sartorial choices and expressions of sexuality for women. Though the discussion ended politely, my feathers were still ruffled. So today, when I post this picture of myself in a corset, I am raising an eyebrow at my family. Who are they to say what I can and cannot show to the world? It is a bit immature. Among the points family made were that women’ shouldn’t be valued solely on looks and sexuality. I don’t disagree. The implication, however, is that there is something wrong with expressing sexuality, that any allusion would diminish whatever value in my intellect and creativity. Instead, I should express my mind, not my body. I disagree. I say that I should do both. There is nothing inherently wrong or inappropriate with celebrating beauty or sexuality. There is also nothing wrong with celebrating something awesome, like a mint green corset that looks great with an orange collar. What is wrong is overvaluing appearance and sexuality to the exclusion of other qualities. Sometimes I want to be recognized for my appearance. Other times I want to be recognized for my mind. I know I am so much more than one or the other. I am both. We can all be both. Every time I post a picture of myself in a corset, I an raising my eyebrow at the world. Zoom

I admit: I am being immature.

This morning, I had a very long discussion with family after someone discovered a picture of me in this corset on Facebook. The conversation was civil, but we simply couldn’t see eye-to-eye. (I don’t think we even agreed to disagree.) We are too stubborn, and have too differing views on sartorial choices and expressions of sexuality for women. Though the discussion ended politely, my feathers were still ruffled. So today, when I post this picture of myself in a corset, I am raising an eyebrow at my family. Who are they to say what I can and cannot show to the world?

It is a bit immature.

Among the points family made were that women’ shouldn’t be valued solely on looks and sexuality. I don’t disagree. The implication, however, is that there is something wrong with expressing sexuality, that any allusion would diminish whatever value in my intellect and creativity. Instead, I should express my mind, not my body. I disagree. I say that I should do both.

There is nothing inherently wrong or inappropriate with celebrating beauty or sexuality. There is also nothing wrong with celebrating something awesome, like a mint green corset that looks great with an orange collar. What is wrong is overvaluing appearance and sexuality to the exclusion of other qualities. Sometimes I want to be recognized for my appearance. Other times I want to be recognized for my mind. I know I am so much more than one or the other. I am both. We can all be both.

Every time I post a picture of myself in a corset, I an raising my eyebrow at the world.

A coworker recommended the Veganomicon as a primer for cooking all things delicious and vegan. I’ll be reviewing the tips and recipes over the next few days for my bake-a-thon this weekend. There are so many delightful possibilities I don’t know how I can choose just one! This is my first time baking vegan, however, so I’m leaning towards something simple, with only small deviances from its non-vegan cousin. Could that mean chocolate chip? Quite likely. Want some tasty vegan treats? I’ll send a half dozen cookies to you if you give me feedback on my baking! Just send an email to calicocatcookies@gmail.com with your address and any dietary restrictions by July 1st! Om nom! Zoom

A coworker recommended the Veganomicon as a primer for cooking all things delicious and vegan. I’ll be reviewing the tips and recipes over the next few days for my bake-a-thon this weekend. There are so many delightful possibilities I don’t know how I can choose just one! This is my first time baking vegan, however, so I’m leaning towards something simple, with only small deviances from its non-vegan cousin.

Could that mean chocolate chip? Quite likely.

Want some tasty vegan treats? I’ll send a half dozen cookies to you if you give me feedback on my baking! Just send an email to calicocatcookies@gmail.com with your address and any dietary restrictions by July 1st! Om nom!